Memoirs Of J

I saw a commercial for how match.com is now offering social mingling events in select towns.  I find this totally confusing.  Aren’t the people using these sites the ones who do not like social  / group gatherings in the first place, thus necessitating that they meet someone in a non-traditional way?

I used the internet to meet my husband and the reason is that I was (am still) not extroverted or outgoing enough to go to, say, the public and meet someone randomly.  And even if as an introvert you somehow force yourself to do this then you’re only going to disappoint whomever you might meet when they find out you really are not the “social butterfly” you  portrayed yourself as.  Because let’s face it – asshole people automatically dislike and have contempt for anyone who is not outgoing and talkative when coming into their group.  Which, to me, is really confusing in itself because why would you be that big of a jerk to require a newly met person to be the one who has to work to impress you enough to be deemed worthy.  It’s always seemed so prejudiced to me how this works in many cases.  If you are so superior being an extrovert, then you should be the welcoming one.

I don’t know… I guess I’m probably in the minority but I’d honestly prefer to hang  out by myself reading  a book or something if the alternative is a group larger than 4-5 people.  I mean it’s weird but even if it was like 15 people I knew really well and liked hanging out with individually, I don’t want to be around them all at once.   It’s not “fright” or “shyness.”   It’s just emotionally draining and not enjoyable.